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There
is one little four letter word that can change a person’s life
for better or for worse. That magical word is love.
From
the day we are born our parents begin their picture of what our
love life will be. It’s all so nice and neat, but in
reality a love life is never as picture perfect as we would like
it to be. Love can be magical, but also leave you with a few bumps
and bruises. Sometimes you may even feel like the theme song
for your love life is the classic hit, “Love is a Battlefield”
by Pat Benatar.
Ever
notice how the friends who always want to give you love advice are
the ones in the worst relationships. They think they are Oprah or
Dr. Phil when their relationships could be broadcast on Jerry
Springer. So why would you listen to them when they tell you
that you are too picky?
You
already know that he’s not just that into you, you now know how
to think like a man, but act like a lady or better yet, you may
still be practicing the rules. Every few years, a book for women
comes out that tells us how men/ women think. Long story short, we
take this advice for a period of time; get frustrated only to wait
till the next self help relationship book is out. It is a vicious
cycle, only if you let it become one.
Let’s
face it, we all know at least one woman like this: she has a dream
job, makes good money, owns her own property, but as soon as she
starts talking about her love life, she becomes a mess! She talks
about how she is getting cheated on her or how she has is dating a
married man. Basically she may look well put together, but she has
more drama in her life than anyone else you know. If you don’t
know this woman, it could in fact be you.
I
am not saying that we all have not been in a relationship that was
not the best, after all that is how we learn our best lessons.
Within all the circumstances, variables, environments, drama, etc
there is one love that rises above all love. That love is, self
love.
Self
love is the one love that gets put on the back burner. Self love
is the one love that can and will help you will your best life.
Until you truly love yourself, no one else will be able to love
you. It sounds so simple, yet there are so many women
find it hard to do. Your degree of self love determines how your
other relationships play out.
By
loving yourself, you say no to dysfunctional relationships,
say no to being a jump off, stop telling yourself this is as good
as it gets, stop dumbing yourself down on dates, etc. You realize
how fabulous you are and you stop settling for okay or good
enough.
You
are the Queen of your own destiny. That means you can have
the relationship that you want and how you want it on your own
terms. It can be hard sometimes when you make the decision
to not settle. In the long run you will be much happier and you
will have the luscious life that you deserve.
In
your quest to stay on point with self love there are two fun
things that you can do to keep you feeling luscious:
Next
time you are walking by a mirror take a good look at yourself and
say “I look good, really,, really good”. Seriously do this for
yourself and remember how it feels. It is that feeling that which
makes all the difference in your heart, mind, and soul. Say it out
loud and say it proud. It will give you such a radiant feeling.
The
other thing that you can do is next time somebody asks you how you
are, instead if saying “fine”, say “sassy”, “sexy”,
“FABULOUS” or any other wonderful word that comes to
your mind. It will put a spring in your step and a sparkle in your
eye. When you say it as an affirmation you will embody it.
Determine
your own definition of love and do not apologize for it. In
reality nobody can ensure your happiness but you. The rest
will fall into place and keep you on the path for a luscious
lifestyle.
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